You’re Not Being “Too Much”—You’re Being Honest
There comes a point when you just can’t fake smile through another painful pee or cancel another date night because of yet another yeast infection. If you’re dealing with recurring UTIs or vaginal infections, opening up to your partner about it is not just okay—it’s necessary.
Spoiler alert: if they care about you, they’ll want to help. Here’s how to start the convo without it feeling awkward, plus simple safety tips they can follow to help keep you feeling good between the sheets and beyond.
Why This Talk Feels So Hard
Let’s be real—talking about “down there” stuff isn’t always easy. Add in words like yeast, bacteria, and pee pain and it’s not exactly pillow talk.
But you deserve to be with someone who supports your whole body—including your microbiome.
How to Start the Conversation
- Pick the Right Time
Choose a low-pressure moment when you’re not already frustrated or in pain. Maybe it’s during a walk, or when you’re both relaxing. Avoid springing it on them mid-hookup. - Keep It Honest but Chill
Try something like: “I want to talk to you about something that affects me pretty regularly, and it’s not the most glamorous—but it’s important. I get frequent UTIs/yeast infections, and I’d love for us to be able to work together to help prevent them.” - Share the Basics (They Might Not Know)
– UTIs happen when bacteria enter the urethra—sex can make that more likely.
– Yeast infections can happen if my vaginal balance is thrown off by friction, pH changes, or even some lubes or soaps.
Most partners genuinely want to understand—give them the info, minus the guilt trip.
Safety Tips They Can Follow to Help Prevent Infections
- Wash Up
Ask them to wash their hands and genitals before sex. It’s not “weird,” it’s considerate. - Use Lube
Friction can cause irritation that opens the door for infections. A pH-balanced, unscented lube helps keep things smooth—and safe. - Avoid Going Back and Forth
Switching from anal to vaginal without washing in between is a major bacterial traffic jam. - Ditch the Funky Underwear
Make sure undies are breathable and clean. Bonus points if they help you get into cozy, cotton pajamas after. - No Strong Soaps or Scents
Gently suggest fragrance-free basics—no shame. - Don’t Skip the Post-Sex Bathroom Trip
Encourage that sacred pee-after-sex moment. Make it part of your shared routine: cuddle, hydrate, pee, repeat.
What to Say if They Get Defensive
If they seem weirded out or take it personally, remind them: “This isn’t about blame—it’s about keeping us both healthy and making sure sex stays fun for both of us.”
And if they really can’t handle the conversation? That’s not a red flag—it’s a red stop sign.
Bottom Line: You Deserve a Partner Who Gets It
Talking about UTIs or yeast infections isn’t romantic—but neither is hiding in the bathroom every time you hook up. A good partner wants you to feel good, not just in bed, but after too.
So have the talk. Set the boundaries. And make prevention part of your pleasure plan.
Helpful Tools & Downloads
- “How to Talk About Vaginal Health With Your Partner” Script PDF
- Couples’ UTI & Yeast Infection Prevention Checklist
- Join Our Community: Real Talk About Yeast, Pee & Pain